The Happiness Mum

What makes you happy?

This seems like a very easy question but if you stop for a minute and think, what really does make you happy?

My mum said my blog needs to contain more happiness and even though she is right most people don’t feel compelled to write about the good stuff, only the bad, shocking and at times controversial.

So I have done what she said (mothers always right) and thought about what makes me happy and it was harder than I thought.

I love going to the hairdresser, having my hair played with for hours, washed, head massage and a couple of hours away with a stack of unread magazines, this is bliss.

I love a bath, a pamper bath with bubbles and Netflix on the ipad. I will sit in the bath for a good hour soaking and enjoying alone time.

I love a massage and I know some who don’t but give me a good rub down with oil and I am putty.

The thing about all these things is that I am alone.

I actually love my own company, I need it! I am a loner and proud!

I need to shut myself away in silence to recharge and refocus.

When things become full on I really need to take some time out to be by myself.

 Christmas is a good example of this, it’s always go go go from the moment you wake up and even as a child I would sneak away by myself to play with my new toys, watch TV in peace or have a nap alone.

My husband knows me well enough now that if I disappear it’s because it’s all a bit much and I need to be all by myself. It makes me happy and it also makes it easy for me to be in situations so I don’t become irritable if I’m unable to “disappear” for half an hour.

I guess it’s a good thing to be comfortable in your own company as RuPaul says “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else!” Can I get an AMEN

Being alone all the time is lonely, I wouldn’t want that but just half an hour away from everyone, everything and Ahhhhhh, I am in heaven!

No talking, no distractions.

Just me.

Alone.

Silence.

I bet now I have said it, you would love it too.