Why Are 2 Year-Old's So Difficult?
There was a time I didn’t believe in the terrible two’s, my daughter seemed to go through her “wild” stage in the first year of her life and by the time she was 2 she had calmed down and was a sweet sensitive girl.
My son on the other hand seems to have had an overnight transformation into the son of Lucifer, does anyone remember that comedy sketch when Kevin turns into a smelly, rude and unrecognisable teen (Am I showing my age? I bloody loved Harry Enfield and chums) this has happened to my little Cassi man, the once adorable, cuddly little boy has turned into the human form of Brexit! Unexplained!
It started very slow, the word “no” became a well-used word. This is not unusual, you will find that toddlers use this word to try and show mama whose boss but when Cassi’s “No” was not listened too that’s when the shitty nappy would hit the fan. He completely loses it, toys are thrown, I get a smack in the face, or a bite and he will let me know he isn’t happy ALL the way home screaming, “No!” at the top of his lungs, and beyond! It’s been exhausting, this is happening after every unmet want.
Today kind of made me think that this was getting out of hand, he hit another mum in the playground who was trying to help him on his many “make a run” from mummy moments. This is more than just a spirited child, he’s the devil!
Cassi was my rainbow baby, after 5 miscarriages I decided one more go and if it happened again, I would just be happy with my beautiful daughter. But the pregnancy stuck and the day he was born, a wave of relief waved over me and I knew my family was complete. I had my husband and one of each, a blessing.
Cassi was an easy baby, he slept, he ate and pooped – and that pretty much summed up the first 15months. He was a late walker which I put down to him being so “chill” but little did I know that the cool dude exterior was hiding a building fire that he would unleash very soon.
Cuddles on the couch and unexpected kisses made me feel like I had the sweetest boy who would look after his mummy well but lately I have seen a very different side of my blue-eyed boy, His tantrums hit with such ferocity and without any warning, that my little boy turns into leg biting, toy throwing and face slapping demon.
He isn’t my first, I know a tantrum as my daughter has thrown some beauties in her time but nothing like the intensity or as frequent of my Cassi mans. Its endless tantrums, I just have to look at him the wrong way and BOOM! Another one!
Its easy at first to ignore, brush them off or to compromises but what do you do when its one after another after another…BOOM BOOM BOOM!? There is no rhythm or reason, nothing I can do to resolve the situation. He walks away and in the next moment trying to beat me up again because the battery on the iPad is dead.
It is getting harder for me to deal with it all, my ears hurt with the high pitch squeal he has developed whenever he isn’t happy, its also hard not to think that this new behaviour is somehow a reflection of my skills as a parent. Have a failed him in some way? What have I done that was so different from his sister?
Of course, I know it isn’t my fault (or is it?) and that this is the age and stage most little humans use to push the boundaries and learn all those curial social skills he needs later in life but COME ON!! I have no idea what else I can do, I am literally trying my best and I’m still getting beat up by a toddler daily.
I also decided if I’m already hearing the constant noise of tantrum ringing in my ears I was going to get rid of the dummy. I cut it up, I got the balls to finally cut that little bugger up and I am yet to have my first night with Cassi not having his beloved “blue dodee” – I’m sure that’s going to make up another post itself.
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